Sunday, October 25, 2009

Intervention

This morning I had to have a "come to Jesus" with my daughter, but it was also for me. I decided to go to church this morning, and when my daughter was trying on clothes to wear, NOTHING fit. Nothing. All of her clothes for church from last winter were too small. These are all size L or 12 misses clothing... The last time she weighed, she weighed about 180 lbs. My daughter is 12 and 5'7". Last week one of her polos for school was too small - and it was a size XL (from Aeropostale so I know it runs small, but still).

I told her that getting on the wagon and taking control of her weight was no longer something whe had an OPTION of doing with me. When I slack, it opens the door for her to do the same thing. I know I have to lose weight for my own health and happiness, but I also have to do it for my daughter. She sees nothing wrong with her weight, because all of the kids at her school who she is friends with are just as big, or BIGGER. Now-a-days its the NORM for children to be overweight. NO WONDER! At my kids' schools, they serve stuff like honey buns and funnel cakes for BREAKFAST, and their lunches aren't much better.

SO I told her that we are going to start out with her drinking at least 8 cups of water each day, and that she is also going to stop eating at school. She can eat breakfaast with me, and I can back both of our lunches for school everyday. Needless to say, she has been moody and pissy all day about this. But over and over I told her that she is not FAT, but that she needs to start making healthy choices and improve her eating habits for LIFE. I also told her that took responsibility for her having these habits, and that I know I need to set a better example.

This weekend has been good. Something changed on Friday, and it was like all the cobwebs and clouds in my mind disappeared. I had a good night Saturday night, and returned home yesterday to a clean house (thanks to my niece). And I have felt pretty good both yesterday AND today, and I'm trying to keep the momentum going. I already know a lot of it has to do with improving my eating and re-starting my supplements. I also got some really good advice and inspiration Thursday night from a close friend, and also from a blog I read....

"When you’re down in a dark hole gripping tightly to a shovel, there’s an illogical, unreasonable temptation to dig, even though digging can’t get you back to safety and can only make a perilous predicament even worse. Now’s the time for you to set aside the spade, take a deep, cleansing breath and start making that long climb back into the sunshine. Climbing is hard work, to be sure, but you know what? So is digging."

I read this on Jack Sh*t's blog the other day, and it was like an alarm went off in my head. It's time for me to stop digging, and to start CLIMBING!

8 comments:

Suz said...

Hun... sorry to hear you're struggling right now. I've read the last several of your posts and have to say that even when things seem tough, God is with you... you've got to trust him!

As far as supplements go... my mom has recently found one that has helped her greatly with everything from her cholesterol, blood sugars and her mood... she had cancer 4 yrs ago and had been in a fog since her treatment. After taking healthy chocolate for 6 weeks she's feeling better than she has for a long time and she's losing weight too.. so it might help your daughter... if she likes chocolate. If you'd like to know more about the chocolate, let me know... I'd be glad to send you her story and tell you more about it.

Keep your head up... you'll get through this rough stretch!

jo said...

Wow, lots to deal with. I'm glad your daughter doesn't have body issues. I think it's wonderful your focus is on health. It's scary, isn't it?

My son had never had sugar cereal when he entered public school, and they served Fruit Loops, etc., every stinking day. Grrrr. What is it with schools and poor nutritional choices??? Doesn't make your job any easier, does it?!

Best wishes.

Greta said...

It would be really fun for you and your daughter to exercise together....like go skating or ice skating...walking, or to a waterpark where you need to climb a trillion steps to go down the slides. Make it a fun mom/daughter thing and make it a habit. You could write down a lot of ideas and put them all in a bowl..and pick one every other day to do together. Food is important...but I think exercise can be even more important...esp when puberty is knocking on the door! Her BMI is 28.2 right now...you could work together to get it below 25. Remember that the fat cells that form for her now will still be hanging around when she is 40 and make it harder for her to lose. You guys can do it...and have fun...make it a project and stay upbeat about it. You always have such a good upbeat attitude in your posts...that should be easy for you! :) Hang in there!

And...funnel cakes for school breakfast....that blows my mind!! Good for you for feeding her at home...be sure to include protein and some omegas at breakfast to fuel her brain for school.

Fat Daddy said...

Your daughter can be a great motivator for you. It is good you took that step for both of you.

And although you have been struggling, I sense this could be a new begining for you, Warrior-Hollie!

carla said...

man, mamahood is SO SO CHALLENGING SOME DAYS HUH?

Girl, I know it.

Youre doing a great job lovingly encouraging and leading by example.

Fat[free]Me said...

It is great that you two are going to be doing it together. Love Greta's suggestion of exercising together too!

I think you should campain for your school to change their menu, that is appalling and undermines you as a parent!

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